Let’s be honest here. Most of us suck at relationships. I want to tell you today that it’s not your fault. You can let go of being so hard on yourself for not being able to figure it out.

Unfortunately most of us didn’t learn how to cultivate a long-term, healthy relationship because we didn’t get to experience it first-hand. We didn’t learn how to exude our feminine essence from our mother. We didn’t see our father always treat her with respect. We weren’t taught to value ourselves. Perhaps vulnerability was an absolute no-no in your childhood too?

So where are we supposed to pick up this very important life skill? Schools don’t touch on it. The media has given false identity to what it really means to fall in love and stay in love. Let’s not even touch on the bad advice you can pick up in any copy of the latest fashion magazines.

And that is why I want to tell you today that it’s not your fault.

It’s not your fault that you are single.

It’s not your fault that you keep choosing the wrong men.

It’s not your fault that you have one bad relationship after the other.

It’s also not your mom or dads fault. There was certainly less knowledge available back then on what it takes to succeed in love and relationships.

But here is the thing: Your life is your responsibility. No-one else is going to fix this for you. If you want to stop repeating this negative love life cycle the responsibility is up to you.

You may not know this, but there is another way. Yes you can take back control over your love life and what’s more is easy to do too. You don’t have to work so hard at it and try to be someone you’re not. You just get to be the real you, plus create an amazing relationship right from the start.

The question is: Do you choose to take control and have a love life that is totally amazing? Or do you prefer the old way of doing things because it feels comfortable right now?

I want to remind you (if you are not a mother already) that you will more than likely one-day have the very important responsibility of modelling a healthy relationship to your children.

Perhaps it’s time for someone to break that cycle? What do you say?