Let’s cut to the chase – I wanna share with you how finding love was really hard for me too – until I met my husband and finally did find love!
But also… I want to share with you my journey to getting here.
Because I know sometimes we can’t help but wonder, will that ever be me? Will I ever find love?
Having been divorced for nearly a decade I was nowhere near figuring love out.
The type of relationships I was ending up in seemed to be getting worse. From a bad breakup with the guy my family thought I would step into a 2nd marriage with, to a complete narcissist, to the ‘sweet guy’ who tried to rough me up twice…
It seemed the men I was attracting were just getting worse.
On top of this dating was literally sucking the life out of me, with one bad dating experience after the other.
I remember waking up in the middle of the night. Anxious. Wondering if this was it. Would I be missing out on the entire point of life?
I recall how hard it was for me to be happy for my friends and family. Seeing everyone get married (being a bridesmaid 5 times!), arranging multiple baby showers and secretly wondering what was wrong with me…
I would numb out the loneliness by throwing myself into work during the week and expensive weekend shopping sprees. Sometimes even drinking a little more than I would like to admit.
I was seriously afraid of spending the rest of my life alone because it felt like I would never be one of those people who had it all.
But a little voice inside me kept saying: Bonita, you are worth so much more and you are destined to have a family of your own.
I decided to step into my power and stop playing small. I committed to doing whatever it took to figure out why I sucked at dating and finding love.
I had had enough!
And that is when everything flipped 180 degrees.
I stepped into action and enlisted the services of a professional matchmaker. Who turned out to be a dud. That experience really hurt. But I got back up.
I left my corporate job and opened up my own matchmaking business in an effort to clean up the industry (and meet my husband).
Soon, I realised that singles need way more help than just being introduced to someone attractive. I completed my coaching qualification and later sold the matchmaking side of the business.
It was around that time that I met my husband (through friends). As I was learning about love and relationships I applied what I had learned to my own life.
And that is why today I am a Love Coach.
When I met my husband I just knew – like never before that this was it! I had found love! I did it – finally!
There was no holding back, no playing games. I went all in because I knew exactly what I was doing.
Of course there were moments of doubt, especially when we were navigating our relationship boundaries. But with all the work I did – deep down I had faith that this was it.
And then there was the moment he asked me out officially. Oooooo. I just felt some butterflies.
The moment we moved in together.
That time he got down on his knee and asked for my hand in marriage.
The day he held our daughter for the first time.
But what changed?
I was able to achieve all of this because of some very important shifts in my approach to dating and my love life.
* I stopped playing the victim, took back control of my life and stepped into action. I gave myself no other option but to succeed
* I stopped measuring my worth by whether I had a man in my life and instead stepped into complete self-worth. When I radiated worth I started attracting such in my life
* I broke free from past relationship patterns and because of that started attracting quality men that I was attracted to
* I found my authentic voice which meant I instinctively started making the right decisions for me – no matter what situation I found myself in
* I stopped working so hard at dating and finding the one but rather stepped into my feminine power
I was a High Value Woman and therefore attracted value in my life – in all areas of my life.
The fact is – it takes commitment. It takes risks. lt takes action to find love!
The good news is, you don’t have to start your own matchmaking service. You don’t have to get a degree in love and relationships either. You also don’t have to spend 10 years of trial and error like I did. Plus you also don’t have to do any of it alone.
I’ve put together a free master class that highlight the exact steps I took. It is available for a limited time only. I want to encourage you to watch it because I know it will blow your mind and really help you.
To your success in love!
Your Love Coach